Prior to beginning my journey I felt helpless, full of negativity and essentially fear. That’s not to say that I don’t still have my moments, hours, of being filled with anxiety about something. However, I don’t allow it to take over my life, affect my relationships with people, and create me into someone I regret being. I find myself figuring out why I feel fearful and overcoming it, that what you call self-help. Being healthy allows you to help yourself. I love speaking to mentors, my grandmother, and others I admire about things. However, I have been come self-reliant enough to sort through my darkness independently; in fact that’s what we always do it just takes a longer time and we are not conscious of it. Talking to others only help temporarily relieve us of our internal battles (darkness). We only resolve problems after we understand what the root of it is for us and only we know our own truth. Our mentors, give great advice but they have had their own experiences developing their own triggers and limits this means they can only help us so much. We can talk things through with others, but self-talk is the healer.
Self-help is the most empowering thing anyone can use throughout life. It means you take matters into your own hands and do what you need to do to be where and what you want to be. Instead of feeling overcome, you take steps to overcome doubt, fear, anxiety, and anything else holding you back from happiness. As I move forward into my profession, the urge to help one’s self will be the one thing I require of all my patients, clients, and friends. It means the person is healthy or working to become healthy.
I’ve come to realize life, especially American life is full of stressors and unreasonable demands. In order to survive without, addiction, abuse, and sickness we have to become healthy. We have to be able to not let negativity make our growth become stagnant which is exactly what happens to a lot of people. How many people do you know that have been at the same level of maturity, intellect, fitness, maybe even economic status for several years? Or that mention the athlete, beautician, singer, magician, they could have been? Chances are, they allowed an obstacle to make them feel helpless and they retreated to a life of comfort and convenience. I want more, I want fulfillment, how about you?
I know when I talk I make things sound easy. It’s not, I struggle with remaining optimistic all the time. However, I am a lot better than I was a few months ago. I’ll one day build an expertise in positivity because just as anyone else willing to work for it, I deserve happiness. To reassure you, I’ll give a personal experience of mine that recently required me to use self-help and self-talk. I am a college senior and it’s hard for me. You see, I am a hard working goal oriented person. For the first time in my life I don’t know what goal I should pursue next, leaving me feeling confused, and inactive. I am also a blossoming young woman that likes to think of herself a young Queen, created just the way she was meant to be. This confidence is foreign to me and attracts people like no other. I am at a life transition and feeling like a young adult independently taking care of myself. Plus dating has recently become of interest to me.
I recently had a great connection with someone, and have been having a lot of obstacles while applying to the graduate program of my choice. I felt the urge to sleep, constant butterflies, and more frequent day dreams. Instead of not doing my course work and sleeping my life away I noticed the changes and began to self-talk to figure out what the hell was going on with me. Well I was anxious because I am an impatient person. I used self-help and began to research what it really means to be impatient so I could get to the bottom of it. I found that: impatient people live in fear of missing out on something. Missing out meaning:being unable to squeeze the maximum value out of every single second of life, being stuck in the present moment’s activity when the most important thing in life lies in the future, and being unable to do all that needs doing before death strikes. Furthermore, I looked into examples of what impatient people do and found that for the most part I have been doing them for majority of my life. A couple includes, rushing through things, not tolerating failure or slowness in myself, a constant need to being prepared, and reacting aggressively to hold ups. Then I wondered what could have caused this, where did the fear come from? Well this articles goes into a few things impatient people may have experienced and something that really applies is early negative experiences with being excluded and a couple others. The bottom line being is I am now aware of what the cause of my anxiety is and I have to tools to talk myself out of negative feelings with being anxious occurs.
I hope this example helps you. Notice your negativity, Self-talk and self-help, will aid in your Journey Full of Health, remember this is a journey not a destination. ❤